Cindy said, "Mrs.Kitteridge, did you get married? Tom said he heard you married Jack Kennison [...] She said, "Yes, it's true. I have married Jack Kennison." [...] we're both old enough to know things now, and that's good."

"What things?"

"When to shut up, mainly"

"What things do you shut up about?" Cindy asked [...] "Well, for example, when he has his breakfast, I don't say to him, Jack, why the hell do you have to scrape your bowl so hard" [...] Imagine at my age, starting over again [...] "But it's never starting over, Cindy, it's just continuing on."

Elizabeth Strout – Olive, Again (2019)
Penguin Random House UK (2019)

And it came to him then that it should never be taken lightly, the essential loneliness of people, that the choices they made to keep themselves from that gaping darkness were choices that required respect 

Elizabeth Strout – Olive, Again (2019)
Penguin Random House UK (2019)